remove the highlight for the current parenthesis but keep it for the matching pair

Question

When I work in a fast paced with vim, one of the recurring annoyance is highlighting of {} or {} or []. When the parenthesis or brackets are adjacent to each other, it takes me a second (yes a whole second!) to figure out where the focus is. I do not like having to rely on the blinking and I still want the matching paren/bracket to be highlighted. So how can I remove just the highlighting for the current paren/bracket?

Answer 1

What you are looking is

set noshowmatch

to be set in vimrc

Answer 2

:hi MatchParen ctermbg=black guibg=black

show match is ok, but the highlight was driving me nutz. The above turns the highight black so you don't see it when editor has a black background